Day care vs Amah
Pre-amble: Click on my previous ramble on amah 😉
Its not an easy decision, being a mother, to place your baby under the care of strangers. These people don’t live and sleep under the same roof with you and you don’t know them at all. I don’t even know if the nannies do have suitable qualifications to take care of someone else’s child. In UK and most countries, nannies have a minimum qualification on diploma in nursery nursing or in Childcare & education. How about child’s psychology? Has there been a study made on the effect of a baby being taken care of an amah? (wah, emosi pulak dia)
Discussion on the pros and cons of sending our baby to a day care as opposed to employing an amah has to be made before coming to the decision – to be or not to be. The decision is usually more difficult with the fact that there aren’t many day care centres in Brunei, more so to where where we resides.
Pros (not in order):
- We don’t have to deal with either the ‘amah’ or ‘agent’ syndromes – the thought of facing a lazy or laser mouth amah or a deceitful and cunning agent really put us off. Trust me, my family and I have learned our lesson.
- It’s good for the child’s early socialisation as the baby got to mix with other children from different ages and backgrounds. It also helps the baby to improve her communications, like asking for her bottle; as well as develop her sense on the surrounding.
- The baby’s feeding time is fixed so this would help teach her or him about routine.
- You don’t really have the authority to sneak in those areas that are ‘For Staff Only’. You can’t check what utensils they use or see what is the status of the centre’s hygiene.
- Your baby might get infected from others who have flu, etc although the centre prohibits those who are sick to come to the centre.
- You have to wake your baby up to take them to the centre when they are still sound asleep.
We don’t have that much choice actually in choosing a day care centre, as mentioned earlier, there are not that many around. Bruneians tend to rely on amah. Of course at the end of the day, its a personal choice.