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Day care vs Amah

November 15, 2007

Pre-amble:  Click on my previous ramble on amah😉

Its not an easy decision, being a mother, to place your baby under the care of strangers. These people don’t live and sleep under the same roof with you and you don’t know them at all. I don’t even know if the nannies do have suitable qualifications to take care of someone else’s child. In UK and most countries, nannies have a minimum qualification on diploma in nursery nursing or in Childcare & education. How about child’s psychology? Has there been a study made on the effect of a baby being taken care of an amah? (wah, emosi pulak dia)

Discussion on the pros and cons of sending our baby to a day care as opposed to employing an amah has to be made before coming to the decision – to be or not to be. The decision is usually more difficult with the fact that there aren’t many day care centres in Brunei, more so to where where we resides.

Pros (not in order):

  • We don’t have to deal with either the ‘amah’ or ‘agent’ syndromes – the thought of facing a lazy or laser mouth amah or a deceitful and cunning agent really put us off. Trust me, my family and I have learned our lesson.
  • It’s good for the child’s early socialisation as the baby got to mix with other children from different ages and backgrounds. It also helps the baby to improve her communications, like asking for her bottle; as well as develop her sense on the surrounding.
  • The baby’s feeding time is fixed so this would help teach her or him about routine.

Cons:

  • You don’t really have the authority to sneak in those areas that are ‘For Staff Only’. You can’t check what utensils they use or see what is the status of the centre’s hygiene.
  • Your baby might get infected from others who have flu, etc although the centre prohibits those who are sick to come to the centre.
  • You have to wake your baby up to take them to the centre when they are still sound asleep.

We don’t have that much choice actually in choosing a day care centre, as mentioned earlier, there are not that many around. Bruneians tend to rely on amah. Of course at the end of the day, its  a personal choice.

80 Comments leave one →
  1. jules permalink
    November 27, 2007 1:32 pm

    hello. can u help me where can i send my baby to a child care centre? i’ve been trying to find one unsuccessfully. thanks

  2. Eva Wanda permalink
    November 28, 2007 3:06 pm

    Hi Jules. Are you in Brunei?

  3. Zul permalink
    December 4, 2007 11:38 am

    Hi. We just had a second child, and I’m trying to find a day care for the first child (1yr 9 months now). Could you reccomend me a good day care for my child.

  4. Nadz permalink
    February 4, 2008 4:07 pm

    Hi, ive just read ur blog. Where can i send my baby to a day care? thanks

  5. Eva Wanda permalink
    February 5, 2008 9:05 am

    Hi Nadz. Thanks. My, I should be getting discount from day care centres for promoting them. Kidding. Let me try to help, but no promises.

  6. Hamdan permalink
    April 17, 2008 11:47 pm

    Hi,

    Add me to those day care enthusiastic. Please email me also the day care information.

    Cheers,

    Hamdan

  7. ayu permalink
    July 28, 2008 12:01 pm

    Hi,
    I’m very interested to know in details where I can send my baby for day care.I’ve agreed that there’s not much nurseries here in Brunei.Very Urgent before August 1.

    Appreciate your help.Thanks.

    Ayu

  8. Calvin permalink
    September 22, 2008 10:44 am

    Hi there, I’m looking for a daycare here in Brunei as well. But apparently, there’s not a lot to choose from, can you email where you sent your kids to? Thanks a bunch…

  9. Eva Wanda permalink
    September 24, 2008 2:59 pm

    Calvin, yes, there aren’t that many around isnit. Perhaps I should open up outlets across Brunei. I see demand here and no supply.

  10. Anonymous permalink
    October 14, 2008 4:29 pm

    Hi, i really looking 4 a daycare 4 my kids. Pls do help me to get the contact no. Tq

  11. Eva Wanda permalink
    October 15, 2008 8:41 am

    Thanks for dropping by Anonymous. I just sent you an email on the contact details.

  12. caite khan permalink
    December 30, 2008 5:00 am

    hi,
    I am moving to brunai to teach in 6 months time. I will have a 1 1/2 yr old and a 4 year old, and I am trying to sort out day care for them – you sound like you could help?? Cheers, Caite

  13. Eva Wanda permalink
    January 2, 2009 10:51 am

    My, my, more demand. Hi caite…will try and I hope you will enjoy your stay in Brunei.

  14. January 31, 2009 1:33 am

    hi iam sending my 1mth old and seven year to daycare trying to find the best and also that procautions should i take. such as what vitamins sholud i give to build up their immune system to fight and help exposure to other kids.

    • Eva Wanda permalink
      January 31, 2009 5:09 am

      Hi Lakesha. One months is still small but you are right, you must build-up babies immune system to avoid infections, Insya Allah. The best thing is to breast-feed your baby as often as possible as may researches have said about the benefit of breast-milk.

  15. Moyra permalink
    February 1, 2009 7:40 am

    please can you give me some address for a good day care centre in Brunei

  16. kathrina murni permalink
    February 5, 2009 3:06 pm

    hi there…
    im interested in taking my baby (once i have to return to work) to a daycare centre.any comments? and can anyone suggest a good daycare?this would really help alot,as im in the same dilemma too..amah vs daycare and so i would really appreciate any information! thanks so much!!!!

  17. MSZ permalink
    February 18, 2009 11:12 am

    Hi,
    I am also looking for a daycare/nursery for my daughter. Found this site while Google-ing. If you could share contact numbers, I’d appreciate it very much. Thanks!

    P/S: I’m staying in Kuala Belait/Seria area.

  18. ASK permalink
    February 24, 2009 11:52 am

    Hi! Could I have your daycare info please, Thanks very much

  19. Uji permalink
    February 26, 2009 2:27 pm

    Assalamualaikum, can you share the childcare info with me too please. I need it for my two mth old daughter. Thanx alot.

  20. jennifer permalink
    July 27, 2010 3:43 pm

    Hi..

    I will be working in Jerudong soon. Have 1 year and 6 months baby. Can provide me details on good nursery or where I can get amah?

    • Eva Wanda permalink
      July 30, 2010 7:44 am

      Hi Jennifer. Congrats on your job in Jerudong. Sorry but I dont have any idea where’s a good nursery around Jerudong. I know there’s one kindergarten near the Jeruton Hotel but not sure if they accept smaller toddlers. Maybe others who come to this site may be able to help you. Have you tried the amah agency?

  21. kathrina permalink
    August 11, 2010 5:20 pm

    hi there..i’ve been having some serious problems with my maid,n am expecting my 2nd child in november.my first will be 18mths then.am thinkin of sending them to a daycare,just for mornings when im at work.i’d really really appreciate any info..thanks!

    • Eva Wanda permalink
      August 13, 2010 10:31 am

      Hi Kathrina. Didnt realise this post is still active. Perhaps a fresh one on the issue. Anyway, I think there’s one in Mata-Mata. Not sure where you reside (hope not in the other districts). Hope that helps?

      • kathrina permalink
        August 16, 2010 10:52 am

        hi there..yes, i think there is one in mata2, and i live in rimba, but if there is a highly recommended one, im willing to send there..i havent checked out the one in mata2 yet, but i will try to soon. thanks again..

      • Cynthia permalink
        September 9, 2010 3:25 pm

        pls… if u know any childcare info pls email me… My son is 1yr 9 months, I looking for a good childcare urgently.

        thanks…

  22. Siti permalink
    August 17, 2010 11:52 am

    Hey can you email me the details for daycare in kb?

    • Eva Wanda permalink
      August 18, 2010 8:41 am

      Hey Siti. Sorry I have no idea on a daycare centre in KB.

  23. Cynthia permalink
    September 9, 2010 3:28 pm

    pls… if u know any childcare info pls email me… My son is 1yr 9 months, I looking for a good childcare urgently. I stay @ beribi

    thanks…

    • jennifer permalink
      September 13, 2010 11:19 am

      hi..i will also residing in brunei next month. have a child same age as yours. But, im planning to get a maid.how fast you nthink this would be?

      I ggogle and manage to contact this centre for childcare: sayangku childcare
      phone no: +6732338885

      i have not visit the palce yet. I beleive is far away from where i stay.

  24. mummy cat permalink
    October 19, 2010 12:23 am

    Hi… I am looking for a day care centre to send my 19-mth old boy. Where do you send your kid? Mind emailing me? Thanks a bunch!

  25. BSB Day Care permalink
    October 30, 2010 2:18 pm

    Hi, i will be opening a home based day care in Kg Mulaut on January 2011. If any of you are still interested do contact me @ my email bsbdaycare@hotmail.com
    Day Care Fee
    $15/day
    $150/month (5days/week)

    Register by group of mixed friends/relatives will get discount.

    Thanx.

    Btw i hope eva dont mind of me posting of my advert on your blog… =D

    • wani permalink
      January 25, 2011 2:27 pm

      may i know ur phone no.? only 5days ? if until saturday ??

      • scc permalink
        April 10, 2011 9:50 pm

        any enquires call 2338885 sayangku child care, bsb

    • Anonymous permalink
      April 25, 2011 5:48 pm

      May i knw ure number im urgently looking for a day care for my baby 8930135

  26. aida permalink
    October 30, 2010 6:28 pm

    hi, if u dont mind i also wish for the list of childcare centres. anything that u have. my daughter is 2 yrs plus. too early to send to school, but i cant rely on maid or nanny at the moment. thanks.

    aida

  27. Era permalink
    December 12, 2010 10:34 am

    hi can I also haf the list of day care centres in Brunei..I work in bndar n live in berakas..any suggestion?my son is 2 years plus now

  28. wani permalink
    January 25, 2011 11:06 am

    salam.. im looking for daycare for the kids.. i saw in beribi got.. after pds school.. how much deposit ??? coz nobody at home.. all working.. as usual, i can sent him to there.. thanks

    • Eva Wanda permalink
      February 7, 2011 3:01 am

      I think they are still open wani. I believe they even posted a handphone number outside the centre. Cant remember now, sorry cant be of much help.

      • May permalink
        March 1, 2011 3:47 pm

        Hi, i need to find a daycare in either Beribi / Gadong / Berakas. Do you have any daycare centre for recommend? thanks

      • Shawty permalink
        June 16, 2016 11:21 pm

        Heyy i know one around madang rimba n telisai:
        Layla’s day care

  29. Siti Junior permalink
    February 14, 2011 4:05 pm

    hello

    I send my daugther to Layla’s day care (Mata-Mata)
    I will check the contact no later.
    Wani: where in Beribi?
    Era: you can try DES School near Delima Filling Station.

    • Anonymous permalink
      July 10, 2015 6:21 am

      hi, is Lyla’s day care good from your personal experience? i’m looking for a place to send my 2 year old..currently having issues with the amah..please email me at nisa1785@gmail.com

  30. sueanne permalink
    March 8, 2011 10:21 am

    Hi Dear

    Just move in here for 3 weeks.Im looking for a daycare in beribi.Is there any recommended daycare in that area?Thanks yah!Cheers!!!

  31. Fat permalink
    March 23, 2011 3:59 pm

    Hi, can you mail me the list of the good day care center. Been searching and not too confident at the ones I found.. thanks.

  32. nouri's daycare permalink
    March 31, 2011 7:34 pm

    Hi, if you’re looking for a safe and fun place for your child, please come to our daycare. Our daycare is located at Kg Sg Hanching. Contact no 2337098 and 7153634.

    Thanks eva

    • Anonymous permalink
      July 25, 2011 8:40 am

      Dear Eva,
      I am looking for a day care centre for my kids. May i know whether is Kg Sg Hanching is near to Kuala Belait or Seria?
      Thanks
      SH

  33. Mia permalink
    April 6, 2011 1:37 pm

    Hi.. can you pls email me all childcare/day care centres in bsb? Thanks..i wud really appreciate it.

  34. Karin van de Haar permalink
    April 20, 2011 7:18 pm

    Hi Eva,

    It seems that you are the expert on daycare or amah’s for Brunei. We will hopefully be moving to Brunei soon and I am looking for a live-in Amah or a daycare centre which can look after a then 3 months old baby. Do you have a any website, agency or references where I try to find somebody?

    thanks for your help!

    regards
    Karin

  35. Nanie permalink
    May 8, 2011 10:41 am

    Hai Eva,

    Can u send me details of daycare u recommended in Brunei..anyway in Brunei Muara, I have to send my 7mth daughter to daycare by next week. Thnks for helping us out eva…

  36. Anonymous permalink
    August 23, 2011 3:56 pm

    im looking for daycare in jerudong area.anyone can you please help. i need urgent. pls contact me to my number 8665479

    memey

  37. Aini permalink
    August 30, 2011 2:22 pm

    Hi Eva, can you send me details of the daycare as well.. and if know of an agent who is trustworthy. Thanks

  38. Helen permalink
    September 17, 2011 12:01 pm

    Hello, it seems there are a lot of people looking for day care! Please could you also send me the list. Many thanks – Helen

  39. mimie permalink
    November 28, 2011 10:09 am

    hi Eva,
    am googleling for day care centre for my 2mth old daughter in brunei muara area.. do email me the list that you have and recommended.. thanks

  40. February 22, 2012 10:14 am

    Cn u emel me the best daycare area berakas?

  41. May 5, 2012 9:59 am

    Hi there🙂 There’s a new daycare center at kb in Jln Maulana for more info please contact 3341819. The baby sitters are ALL LOCAL and it’s a great place to drop by your kids. there is a learning session, story telling session and etc a whole lot more activity concerning kids and their safety as well. so do call us and visit us and it’s never too late to register🙂

  42. May 6, 2012 11:38 am

    Jules can u email daycare list coz I really need it ASAP. Send to muttalibhm@gmail.com. Thanks

  43. May 7, 2012 9:07 am

    Hi there🙂 Day Care Center KB is a government registered center for taking care children below 3 years. should you be interested in our services, you can call us at 3341819 for more details.

    Our daycare center is employed by LOCAL babysitters ONLY as there are no foreign workers involved or employed in our center for safety concerns. Thank you.

    You can contact us via other alternatives through our facebook Daycarecenterkb KB or follow our blog.

    • Nesrine permalink
      October 14, 2014 12:33 pm

      Could you please send me the contact details and the address so that I can visit you as I’ve 1 year child and looking for a day care center for my baby

  44. neesa permalink
    July 19, 2012 3:43 pm

    can u email me list of daycares around lambak area? i need to send my 2mnths+ daughter by september as i would be resuming my work by then…email to neesa_xoxo@hotmail.com. thanks =)

  45. Diora permalink
    July 26, 2012 10:56 pm

    DAYCARE : EASY CHILD MINDING SERVICES 7170302 / 8615630. Batu Bersurat, BSB, Brunei

  46. zilah permalink
    September 7, 2012 11:29 pm

    Dear eva..kindly giv me list of da best daaycare to send my 3mths bby..brunei muara..preferably gadong/berakas area..tq.

  47. Meissa permalink
    September 24, 2012 11:24 am

    Hi I’m a mother also looking for a daycare to send my 3 mths old baby. Have been looking at Lambak – Bistari Day Care Center I think is the name, just after the petrol filling station. $220/mth I think, looks v good but a bit far for me. DES is full at the moment. Easy child Minding Services in Pengkalan Gadong looks good too but they don’t have enough staffing at the moment to accept babies $200/mth I think – so I’m on waiting list. Went to check in Kg Mata-Mata at Lyla’s Daycare – if I can’t find other better place might have to send there😦 . Want to visit Wisdom Jade Day Care too which they said have moved to new building in Beribi/Mata-Mata. If anybody knows any Day care around Kiulap o Kiarong please share some info…..

  48. humyra permalink
    October 12, 2012 9:35 pm

    assalam.eva are u still active?please email me any day care best day care around berakas or lambak for my child.tq

  49. Anonymous permalink
    November 20, 2012 5:14 pm

    hai i need a job. Is there any job require for like day care?

  50. Anonymous permalink
    January 19, 2013 3:42 pm

    Is there any Daycare service in Belait disctrict?

    • Dyana permalink
      May 14, 2013 2:06 pm

      u can scroll up, they already mention there is a day care in belait area.

      • panic mom permalink
        July 1, 2014 8:59 pm

        Does the kdc daycare in kb still exist? Is there any daycare in kb?

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  54. Little Mommies permalink
    January 4, 2014 1:32 pm

    This blog is very helpful. I also wanted to add some tips for those who choose to send their baby/kids to a daycare just like me.
    1. Before confirming your daycare center, ask around for recommendation from your friends or family.
    2. Check who will be your baby caregiver. Are they local or international? This is depend on your preferences. I like to select locals coz easy for me to communicate with them.
    3. Make sure they have an assigned two or three caregiver responsible per group of baby/kids. Example, for age 3-9 months group are taken care by two caregiver and so on. This is important. So they come to learn your baby behavior rather than those daycare center that have no assigned person to take care of your baby. They know when your baby last meal, bath, cried etc…
    4. Lastly, make sire they have a curriculum. Time to eat, sleep etc. Yes, a good daycare center have a solid one even in Brunei.

    It is important for me to send my kids to the best caregiver coz they loves to be around with other kids. That is why I always choose daycare center than an amah to look after my kids.

    • Anonymous permalink
      February 19, 2014 11:32 am

      hi dear…currently im looking very2 urgent day care.. which day care would be you recomended on best care n safe…

  55. June 5, 2014 8:55 am

    Hi all… Can anyone give me any reviews about Lyla’s daycare. or any other day care with personal experience….

  56. October 2, 2014 10:17 am

    Hi, stumble upon this on google… any recommended day care, kindly email me. Thanks

  57. Syasya permalink
    December 15, 2014 8:28 am

    hi all, looking for daycare around bandar area, kiulap area or kiarong area please…need to send my child for daycare…

  58. Anonymous permalink
    July 11, 2015 4:25 pm

    May i request for a list of daycare in Brunei?
    I have seen Bistari and Lylas daycares respectively but far from our place in Bandar area.

    My email is gin.ger.ale@hotmail.com
    Thanks a lot Eva.

  59. Anabelle permalink
    July 19, 2015 10:42 am

    Hi all, anyone who can give suggestions for a bandar-area daycare please? Urgent need😉

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